How To Be A Modern Day Gentleman: Basic Life Lessons

Have you always respected high-status men who knew how to operate confidently in life while staying polite? You wanted to become a gentleman but didn’t know where to start? In this article, we will explain how to become a modern-day gentleman.

Two Suit Jackets on Racks in Store

At Midway Gentleman Magazine, we often write content related to the gentleman’s lifestyle. We have wanted to make this topic for a long time. We strongly believe that it is our responsibility to bring the good old values back to life and show how to live life as a modern day gentleman. Today, we’re going to cover the past and present of being a gentleman and give you some tips on how to get started in this prestigious lifestyle.

What is a Gentleman?

First, we need to understand what a gentleman was in the past. A gentleman is any man with a kind and courteous behavior. If we look at it from a historical point of view, the gentleman was the lowest rank of the landed gentry of England, ranking below an esquire and above a yeoman. By definition, the gentleman comprised the younger sons of the younger sons of peers, and the younger sons of a baronet, a knight, and an esquire, in perpetual succession. As such, the connotation of the term gentleman captures the common denominator of gentility, a right shared by the peerage and the gentry, the constituent classes of the British nobility.

The meaning of a gentleman has undergone significant change over time. If we speak historically, the gentleman’s title was not based on the actions of a man, unlike today. It was more of a birthright. Men whose parents were wealthy and in good social standing were considered gentlemen. During that time, these gentlemen did not work to achieve the wealth and status they had. Instead, the title became more or less inherited through their family name and origins. As I will mention in the article, being a gentleman today is about a man’s actions and behavior, not his birthright.

Being a Modern Day Gentleman is Not About Suits

In many movies and TV shows, gentlemen are often portrayed as the men who always wear a suit. Take, for example, the Kingsman. All members of the Kingsman wear custom-made suits. While many gentlemen choose a classic suit as their attire – wearing a suit will not make a man a gentleman.

Taron Egerton Wearing Suits Featured in Kingsman
Taron Egerton featured in © Kingsman

Keep in mind that a gentleman can wear casual clothes, just like any man can wear a suit. Clothes will not make you a different person. On the other hand, how you wear and treat your clothes is a sign of maturity, which leads to being a gentleman. If you keep your shoes cleaned and your shirts ironed, those will tell a lot more about your personality than wearing a suit.

The most important thing to know about style is purposeful dressing. A gentleman knows when to put on a tuxedo or comfy athleisure clothing. Every clothing has its purpose. You would not want to go for dog walking in a tuxedo, nor go to the opera wearing joggers. Keep your attire clean and well maintained. If it has a hole try to patch it, just because your clothing has a little rip or hole, doesn’t mean it should be in the trash, it should be fixed.

Being a Modern Day Gentleman is Not About Age

Many people think that being a gentleman is an old man thing, which is a total misconception. Being a gentleman has nothing to do with your age. It is all about your mindset and how you treat others. If you are interested in how you could start being a gentleman, check out the image at the bottom of the article, where we listed 20 tips to start being a gentleman.

Gabriel Macht as Harvey Specter and Patrick J. Adams as Mike Ross
Gabriel Macht as Harvey Specter and Patrick J. Adams as Mike Ross

Gentlemen are Always on Time

Being late is never attractive as it shows a lack of respect for the other person’s time. If you want to become a gentleman, you need to learn empathy. If you never want to be late, expect to arrive at least 5-10 minutes early to avoid any delays caused by traffic jams. Bring a newspaper or book if you are easily bored. Most likely, the person you are meeting will arrive a few minutes early as well and will be happy to see that punctuality is one of your top traits. It is a beneficial quality not only for job interviews but also for first dates. If your route to work is often busy by traffic, head out earlier or find a new way.

Being a Gentleman is About Small Gestures

If you think being a gentleman is always about huge things, you are wrong. Many times being a gentleman is all about small gestures. The easiest way to act like a gent is to learn to use the following words: ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’. Powerful words, yet so many people have difficulties using them. If you are wrong, say sorry and mean it. If someone did something nice for you, say thank you. You don’t need to overcomplicate it.

Another gesture could be a firm handshake, standing up at the table when someone joins, smiling and making eye contact when talking to a friend, or greeting when you enter a store, gym, or a room in general. These are all small gestures, but if you do them, you will immediately seem more confident and courteous.

A Gentleman Knows the Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance

Finally, there’s a big difference between being confident and arrogant. Many men believe that the only way to achieve a high status is to be rude with others, while in reality, all they are is an arrogant prick. A gentleman knows how to be self-confident without acting or looking arrogant. It is not an easy task, but with time and experience, it is possible to learn. Improve your vocabulary and negotiating skills, and you will achieve the wanted life.

I wrote this article to be a short guideline to anyone interested in the gentleman lifestyle. If you want to be a modern-day gentleman, here are 20 tips to get you started. Save it for later use.

20 Ways To Become A Modern-Day Gentleman

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